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Final Frontier 3 – Revelation

I actually wrote this back in early November.  The “event” itself occurred back in October some time and I took my time in writing it out.  I had forgotten about it but it is significant.

The follow up to this is that I’ve lost a few pounds, I have started to be more active, I do feel better, and I am still grateful for my body, quirky as it is. I’ve also lost my taste for junk food.  AAck!!

Well,

Last night, I finally had THE revelation.  Well, I think it’s pretty significant anyway.  So, as the title indicates this is another in the EFT weight loss journey that I’m on, thanks to my friend.  It came rather suddenly as well but I was working on something else and it came down to it.

So, I had been asking a friend of mine what some of my blocks were (to romance, of course) and she mentioned, ” I keep getting that you don’t want to be seen naked”.    Well, yeah . ..  so? she make it sound like a bad thing.  Who, without a perfect body, does want to be seen.  Well, to be honest, i’ve just tried to ignore that little fact and since my body is my body, I can’t take a pill to make it magically different and I don’t want to wait until i’m perfect to have an intimate relationship (cause that ain’t NEVER going to happen). So, what to do?  How do I quickly get over my squeamishness and denial about my imperfect body so that this is not one of the blocks to my having a more romantic relationship or to anything else for that matter?

Well, in a blinding flash of insight (i really am slow sometimes – this time about 30 years slow) I thought – EFT!! It’s the fastest way to work through fears and doubts and I do mean fast – try it on something sometime that you think is insurmountable.  I have applied this on a couple of things and in the space of minutes i’ve had the realization of what the core issue was with the apparent issue and been able to overcome it.

Well, I did some tapping over the weekend, and did a bit more last night and last night as I was lying in bed, it came.  The revelation, of my lifetime, i’m sure, since I think so much of my identity is hooked in to my body (even though Ive denied it for years:

My body is my best friend; ever.  It has always been there for me.  It has never lied to me.  It communicates regularly with me.  It has always told me when there was something wrong.  It has protected me when I needed it to.  It has never failed me.

I can say this with confidence, that my body has never failed me even though I’ve been ill, been injured, injured myself, fought back and successfully stayed healthy no matter how much I have abused it (and I do love junk food!) and neglected it (i.e. no exercise) because I believe my physical state completely reflects my mental, spiritual and emotional state.  It is the mirror of my other aspects.  I believe in Louise Hay, when she says all physical symptoms are a reflection of other issues in your life (I’m paraphrasing here).  I have seen evidence of it continuously since I started looking at my physical state as a symptom of other things.  The most obvious of this type of reflection is one that we all know – when you look like a slob or don’t care for yourself, it generally indicates to others that perhaps you don’t have as much respect for yourself as you could (I’m not sure if Sunday pajama day counts in there . . . ), but i’m sure you catch my drift.

The tapping seems to have worked as today I feel great, my joints are moving a bit better (of  course the yoga and stretching Im doing may be helping with that) and hurt less, and i’m not afraid to look in the mirror (and I have really big mirrors in my bathroom – yes it’s a rental).

So,  my body is my best friend and I have to say, it is definitely time to start treating this particular friend with a great deal more respect, love, care, and gratitude.

So, thanks to my body, for always looking out for me.

With love and light,

Jenn

Acknowledgments and reference:

Louise Hay, You can Heal Your Life: a great book!

EFT: Emotional Freedom Technique, www.emofree.com

Any other questions or comments, please contact me at wyldvynes@gmail.com.  Thanks!

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Where did my blankie go?

You know when you were a kid, and you reached a point in your childhood when you decided it was time to grow up and put away your blankie? That one thing that you always had with you, or kept in your bed, that kept you sane and stable when all around you seemed to be going mad because, well, first of all, everything was happening 3 feet higher than you, and sometimes there was yelling or crying or just loud noises or laughing, or people you didn’t know or, the classic, smelled funny?

Maybe you didn’t have one but I did. I remember when I put my blankie away the first time. And now I still have one – but it looks oddly like a stuffed animal . . . regardless, I realized this week that I have been neglecting a much needed blankie for me, and one that I hope is also providing hope and support to some of you out there. As soon as things were shifting around (such as my friends leaving, and me getting the dream job that I had been asking for), and moving forward, adn getting better, I dropped that blog/blankie like a hot potato.

So, shame on me – I am doing the best I can but I know that I can do better now. I do need to keep contributing to my blog, because, well, even if there isn’t anyone out there reading it, I need to express it somehow. Yes, that’s me, I’m all about the sharing . . . 😉

But seriously, in a manner of speaking, I forgot where I came from and I’m pretty sure that’s ok. Sometimes it’s good to do that, at least for a while, until you’re ready to go back and look at the dark times but I think, for me anyway, it’s important for to remember that this is here because the dark times cycle in and out, and transitions always occur, some easier than others (where are those margaritas??) but there will always be change. And now, there can always be blog . . .

I’m terrible at journaling.  I have journals started all over the place with the intent to get my stuff out and I haven’t always been keen on the blog scene because I’ve heard that many sites are just private diaries – not into reality shows, thanks, my own is pretty wild enough.  So, for my own sake, I need to blog, I guess, instead of journal. But I talk things out when I’m trying to figure things out:   I just start talking: “if this, then this” type-of-thing, kind of like brainstorming but with my voice rather than a pen, so at least this way, on a blog, I can still talk and mumble, but I’m not confusing the hell out of my roommate . . . and people might not think I’m quite so nuts. . . (well, that might not happen).

It’s all good. But for those of you who have put your blankie down, the thing that got you through the bad times . . . what do you need to remember about it? Do you need to let it go, do you need to know that you can let it go when you need to and stand on your own?  Do you need to realize that it is still a valuable tool and that you need to incorporate it into your everyday routine?

Hopefully you aren’t coping with your transitions with abuses, and if so, please ask for some help – there are many options out there, but we all find something to help us cope and to get through the tough times; but if you’ve gotten through, or are getting through, instead of running away at high speed from your (non-destructive) coping mechanism, what do you need to take from it? What did you learn from it? What can you share with others, from your own experience?

And then take those answers and lessons and resolutions and hold them up like the badges of honour that they are because we all need some way that’s positive and supportive to get through the tough times. Those mechanisms that keep us going forward in the rough times help us be the hero in each of our own stories.  And sometimes our story can help someone else be the hero in their own story or gives them hope about getting back into the light and back on path so  I  think it’s important to share when and how you’ve met your challenge.  And it let’s us all know that we’re not alone in the dark, ever.

And treat yourself with care; you are a limited edition, one-of-a-kind masterpiece and someone out there (if not many someones) really wants you to be around with them.

So, the blankie is on the wall now . . or is the blankie on the blog now . . .

With love and light,
Jenn

Qs or Cs? Email me at wyldvynes@yahoo.ca

Not sure how to move ahead or to start or finish a transition? EFT helped me a great deal and with many things and someone has probably tried using it on an issue similar to yours – they say to try it on everything; the manual is even free! Check out the website at http://www.emofree.com.
There are many resources out there to help you through any situation. Please take advantage of them. Hugs, jenn

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